Please Don't...

Sometimes I wish I had a brochure that I could give to people to read before they talk to me about my infertility.  I know people mean well but there are certain things that should NOT be said. At least not to me.  

Please don't...

Tell me that I am young and have time to have kids.

Yes, I am 27.  TL and I have been married for 3 1/2 years.  We own a house.  We both have good jobs.    I would say that it is a perfectly appropriate time in our lives to want children.  And, being young doesn't change the fact that we have wanted a baby for over a year now.

Ask, "If it doesn't work, are you going to adopt?"

If it doesn't work?  

If. It. Doesn't. Work. 

Thank you for verbalizing my biggest fear.

Tell me about your friend, cousin, sister in law that did IVFs, IUIs, etc. and never got pregnant.

Honestly, are you on drugs?  Do you think I want to hear this?

And, please, for the love of God...

Do NOT tell me to relax and try not to think about it.

How am I supposed to not think about it when I have to wake up at 6:35 every morning to take my temperature?

How am I supposed to not think about it when I have three doctor's appointments in one week to check follicle size?

How am I supposed to not think about it when I have my legs up in stirrups and they are inseminating TL's sperm through a catheter?

How am I supposed to not think about it when I have to take a progesterone supplement three times a day?

How am I supposed to not think about it when every time I go to the bathroom I am worried what I might see?

How am I supposed to not think about it when a negative pregnancy test only means that I have to do this all over again?

Please hug me.  

Please tell me that you are sorry.

Please tell me that you will pray for me.